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The Family => Marriage => Topic started by: Richard OFfill on January 08, 2009, 10:34:42 AM

Title: What Does One Do
Post by: Richard OFfill on January 08, 2009, 10:34:42 AM
I recently received an email. The question was what do you do when your husband was once a believer and has left the church.

My answer was, 'Be kind'. What do you think?
Title: Re: What Does One Do
Post by: Agatha on January 08, 2009, 11:04:47 AM
I think you are wise! She can be a sanctifying influence upon him as she is called to be.  Mother did it for 62 years.
Title: Re: What Does One Do
Post by: Ruth on January 08, 2009, 11:38:45 AM
Wise response.

Only... it might not be so easy in the heart of the one who thought she married a godly man.  Feelings of despair and depression will sometimes assail you when it seems you were (bamboozled?).

Against that background, I would add... Seek to set aside a bit more time to spend in Bible study and prayer at the feet of Jesus.  Dwell on His promises that you may have peace in spite of your circumstances.
Title: Re: What Does One Do
Post by: Agatha on January 08, 2009, 12:21:03 PM
And difficult, it is! Yet, the trials that wife endures will be a daily witness (and rebuke) to her fallen husband and that, along with the convicting power of the Holy Spirit, can possibly convince him to willingly and lovingly return. Mother did not live to see the results of her sanctified influence, yet her witness is marked in heaven. A house divided has to be one of the most difficult roads one can travel.

Mother was not a shy woman when it came to her plight. She would grab her unbelieving husband and look him squarely in the eyes and state they needed to pray for something and this would find them on their knees. She would ask him to pray for his family - and he learned how to do it. She would sing at home during Sabbath hours while the television was blaring out a sports showdown. Silently, she let him know the atmosphere around her personal space was that of heaven. I liked that about her.
Title: Re: What Does One Do
Post by: Ruth on January 08, 2009, 12:24:36 PM
Agatha... I agreed with you.  I was just referring to the need to address the possible emotional/spiritual dilemma of the wife in the original post. :D
Title: Re: What Does One Do
Post by: Agatha on January 08, 2009, 12:54:26 PM
Oh, yes, Ruth. We are absolutely on the same page! :D I was simply elaborating a little with Mother's first-hand experience. There are many tears, incredible prayers of longing, begging, pleading with God to intervene, yet the unbelieving spouse must be willing - or pray to be made willing. It is so very difficult because it is a constant battle - good against evil!