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The Family => Marriage => Topic started by: Richard OFfill on September 10, 2008, 02:53:07 PM

Title: Protecting the Home
Post by: Richard OFfill on September 10, 2008, 02:53:07 PM
Adventist homes are breaking up at an alarming rate. What is the problem? I wonder if it is that we are not doing what Jesus taught us to do? Is the Sermon of the Mount a suggestion, an option or is it mandatory? What are the kinds of things that break up homes? Could it be priide and selfishness and perhaps bitterness? What can couples do to avoid the kinds of things that break up the home?

We do everything we can to protect our houses. Why not our homes.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Larry Lyons on September 10, 2008, 04:59:01 PM
I know that one reason that many marraiges break up is over the issue of control. The man takes to innapropriate lengths the "head of the house" concept, and attempts to dominate and control everything, especially his wife and children. That is a form of abuse, even if there is no physical abuse. I suspect that there often is in many families like that.
I know a man who seems to ruminate at length over his broken marraige. The were not Christians, but the wife studied with the Jehova's Witnesses and according to this man, they encouraged her to take the children and leave. He recently told me the story again and said "I lost control of my wife to the Jehova's Witnesses. A very telling statement, I think.

There is also the situation where the man wants to be "man of the family" but the woman "wears the pants" and undermines the role of the man.

Of course the militant feminism movement does everything in its power to destroy these roles in society.I suspect that these patterns exist just as much in SDA families as they do elsewhere. People tend to repeat the patterns of the families they grew up in.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Raven on September 10, 2008, 05:23:13 PM
I suspect that pride and selfishness are the root causes of marital problems.  That being the case why do we not hear more sermons on the evils of pride and selfishness, and the necessity of cultivating humility and selflessness?  I can't recall ever having heard a sermon on pride (except one that I preached many years ago), and few on the need for humility.  Selflessness is discussed on occasion, but it cannot exist in the presence of pride.  These noble virtues are not prized in today's society.  It seems to me that since pride was what got us into this mess, we maybe should focus more on eliminating it from our lives.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: newbie on September 10, 2008, 06:14:11 PM
I suspect that pride and selfishness are the root causes of marital problems.  That being the case why do we not hear more sermons on the evils of pride and selfishness, and the necessity of cultivating humility and selflessness?  I can't recall ever having heard a sermon on pride (except one that I preached many years ago), and few on the need for humility.  Selflessness is discussed on occasion, but it cannot exist in the presence of pride.  These noble virtues are not prized in today's society.  It seems to me that since pride was what got us into this mess, we maybe should focus more on eliminating it from our lives.
I'd like to see a sermon on this topic.   :-)
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: George on September 11, 2008, 07:16:57 PM
Could it be that homes are breaking up because there's too much "screen time" and not enough family time?  Everybody's in their own separate little world; one kid's on the Gameboy or the Playstation Portable, another kid's on the computer surfing the Internet, still another kid is zoned out listening to music on his Ipod, Dad's watching his TV program in the den, mom's watching her program up in her room.  It's easy to see how communication between family members starts to break down.  And values from watching/playing/listening to these things start to permeate the minds of those who consume them. 

If you listen to rock/rap music that tells you women are "ho's" whose only purpose is to satisfy your sexual urges, and that getting a whole heap of money is the most important thing in life and that you need to love yourself first and so on and so on, you'll start to believe that after awhile.  And after watching TV shows populated with young hardbodies all day, the slightly pudgy partner you married might start to pale in comparison, and you might feel dissatisfied and even begin "looking around".  And all those TV commercials promising happiness if you'll just buy this object, and on and on.   And the day is so busy and chock full of stuff and you woke up late and it's rush, rush, rush and you didn't even read your Bible or lesson today and you didn't do much spiritually yesterday either, and frankly you have little desire to do so because your values have shifted and you just don't feel comfortable reading the Bible....

Bottom line, I contend that Adventist (and non-Adventist) homes are breaking up for three reasons:
(1)  We're not spending time with our fellow family members
(2)  We're not spending time with Jesus
(3)  Instead, we're spending time with all our virtual friends in the mass media, who more often than not are subtly teaching us to despise the people in (1) and (2) above.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: reaching4heaven on September 12, 2008, 11:35:15 AM
Bottom line, I contend that Adventist (and non-Adventist) homes are breaking up for three reasons:
(1)  We're not spending time with our fellow family members

I heard a sermon in which it was stated that our family should be our first mission project. Link our hearts together & then we can reach those around ourselves. Ignore the family (or Jesus! - as stated in point #2) & what kind of witness is there? Unhappy spouse, rowdy kids, ... not a Christian witness.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Richard OFfill on September 12, 2008, 06:23:22 PM
Just for the fun of it: What are the three negative aspects that men and women might exhibit in a marriage?

Husband:
1.
2.
3.

Wife:
1.
2.
3.

What should each one try to be:
Husband:
1.
2.
3.

Wife:
1.
2.
3.


Lets see what we get!
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Raven on September 13, 2008, 03:36:25 AM
Just for the fun of it: What are the three negative aspects that men and women might exhibit in a marriage?

Husband:
1. 
2. 
3. 

Wife:
1.
2. 
3.

What should each one try to be:
Husband:
1.
2.
3.

Wife:
1. 
2. 
3.


Lets see what we get!

What are the three negative aspects that men and women might exhibit in a marriage?

Husband:
1.  big ego
2.  chauvinistic
3.  domineering

Wife:
1.  frivolity
2.  manipulative
3.  impatience

What should each one try to be:
Husband:
1.   humble
2.  unselfish
3.  kind

Wife:
1.  Same as above?  I can't think of anything else--I've only been married for 25 years.  :-D  I'm sure one
2.  of the ladies will come up with something.
3.



There must be more than 3 of each.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: reaching4heaven on September 13, 2008, 05:12:58 AM
What are the three negative aspects that men and women might exhibit in a marriage?

Husband & Wife:
1. swift to speak
2. slow to hear
3. swift to wrath

What should each one try to be:
Husband & Wife:
1. Like Jesus

Although we might try to categorize faults of men & women as different, I think they often overlap & we basically have the same need (Jesus!) and the same faults (self!)

Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Larry Lyons on September 13, 2008, 08:04:17 AM
Husband
1. Insensitive
2. Absorbed in work.
3. Puts own needs first

Wife
1. Narrcisstic
2. Demanding
3. Witholding emotionally

Both should learn to
1. Be loving and considerate
2. Be kind, accepting  and tolerant
3. Be like Jesus

Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Deep Waters on September 13, 2008, 04:05:39 PM
Husband
1. Insensitive
2. Absorbed in work.
3. Puts own needs first

Wife
1. Narrcisstic
2. Demanding
3. Witholding emotionally

Both should learn to
1. Be loving and considerate
2. Be kind, accepting  and tolerant
3. Be like Jesus

I guess the part about "Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God" (Eph. 5:21) falls under the "Be like Jesus" category.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Richard OFfill on October 13, 2008, 04:51:15 PM
I mentioned this in the context of 1 Corthians 13 today. It seems to me that the war is not only in Iraq or Afganistan but more likely in our homes. I may be wrong but it seems to me that the war in our homes is an indication that we are not born again and as such will miss eternal life.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: El on October 14, 2008, 10:46:29 AM
I mentioned this in the context of 1 Corthians 13 today. It seems to me that the war is not only in Iraq or Afganistan but more likely in our homes. I may be wrong but it seems to me that the war in our homes is an indication that we are not born again and as such will miss eternal life.
  I believe that loving God, husband (or wife) and family more than we love ourselves is the answer to keeping our homes together. 
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Raven on October 15, 2008, 03:37:25 AM
I mentioned this in the context of 1 Corthians 13 today. It seems to me that the war is not only in Iraq or Afganistan but more likely in our homes. I may be wrong but it seems to me that the war in our homes is an indication that we are not born again and as such will miss eternal life.

The war in our homes underscores the truth that our biggest battles are with self.  Unless we gain that victory, we have no hope of eternal life.
Title: Re: Protecting the Home
Post by: Agatha on October 15, 2008, 06:56:56 AM
What happens in the home happens in the church. It is a direct reflection and a sure gauge of the condition of the home.