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Title: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on August 24, 2008, 07:38:04 PM
It looks like the hacker hacked away the previous prayer threads, where I wrote quite extensively about my wife's progress.

My wife Marti has a very rare neurological disorder that causes premature strokes, and has a poor prognosis. One year ago, it looked like she was going to die. She was being fed by a feeding tube, and could not even sit up and she was essentially blind.

One year later, she is now eating well without a tube and is back to her ideal weight. She now has some vision restored and was able to enjoy watching the olympics.  She is still totally dependent for all activities of daily living. She is able to walk with assistance, and her speech is improving significantly. In many ways she is like a child as far as her affect, but has a good long term memory.

The best news is that God used this illness to bring her to saving faith. She is truly a new creation in Christ. It is thrilling to hear her child-like prayers when I put her to bed at night.

God has also blessed us with two wonderful caregivers who take care of her while I am working. When I am off, I have been privileged to assume this role.

We continue to praise God for sustaining us with His grace through this difficult time period.  We don't know what the future holds, as her condition could get worse at any time. However, we do know Who holds the future, and we have utmost confidence that God is working throught these circumstances according to the promises of Romans 8:28.

We appreciate all who have prayed for her, and we continue to ask for your prayers for her continued healing.

Soli Deo Gloria (To God alone be the glory)

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: colporteur on August 24, 2008, 08:12:01 PM
We are fearfully and wonderfully made aren't we? It never ceases to amaze me at how resilient the body can be. It reveals how we were created for life not death. Oh, for the reality of heaven !

I will pray for your Marti  tonight.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: El on August 24, 2008, 08:54:50 PM
We are fearfully and wonderfully made aren't we? It never ceases to amaze me at how resilient the body can be. It reveals how we were created for life not death. Oh, for the reality of heaven !

I will pray for your Marti  tonight.
I agree with Colporteur on this one.  How wonderfully made we are.  How resilient our bodies are when we have the faith in God that restores us.  I was not on this forum to read of your wife's illness before now, Stan.   But I am very aware of how indispensable our mates are to us and we do not realize it so much as when we are in fear of losing them.  Your wife is certainly in our prayers.    EL
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Dalfie on August 25, 2008, 05:10:44 AM
Thank you for this update, Stan! I was thinking of you and Marti just this morning, and wondering how she is doing. I'm glad you seem to be holding on, I know this hasn't been a easy journey. We'll remember Marti in prayer.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: SDA4Life on August 25, 2008, 08:37:37 AM
You and your wife are in my prayers. Despite this very difficult trial, I must say praise the Lord that these events have brought your wife to a strong relationship with Jesus. May God bless you both.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Deborah Risinger on August 25, 2008, 11:42:22 AM
Stan...God's Blessings to you and your wife...

Deborah
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: reaching4heaven on August 27, 2008, 01:04:01 PM
"I have read of a little bird that while his cage is full of light never sings the songs his master would teach him. He will listen, and learn a snatch of this, a trill of that, but never a separate and entire melody. But the master covers his cage, and then, in the dark, he listens to the one song he is to sing. He tries and tries again to sing that song, until it is learned, and he breaks forth in perfect melody; and then the cage is uncovered, and ever after he can sing it in the light. Thus God deals with his creatures. He has a song to teach us, and when we have learned it amid the deep shadows of affliction, we can sing it ever afterward." --R&H, November 25, 1884

This isn't what I was looking for, but I thought it was beautiful. Praise God your "little bird" is singing! My prayers are with you both for continued improvement and to God be the Glory.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Pamela Adams on August 27, 2008, 01:15:17 PM
Have thought often of you and your wife.....continued prayers for the both of you....God is so loving....
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: fifthgenSDA on August 27, 2008, 06:49:18 PM
Praying for you & your wife tonight...

God bless,
Maggie C.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on August 27, 2008, 10:36:59 PM
Thanks so much everyone for your thoughtful responses. They really comfort me. I have just put her to bed tonight, and she prayed thanking God for all who are praying for her.

Reaching, I liked the songbird illustration as it is so true.

I am really touched by everyone's thoughtfulness.

Soli Deo Gloria
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on August 28, 2008, 09:33:38 AM
May God be with you during this time....

newbie
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Pamela Adams on August 28, 2008, 11:31:04 AM
Soli.....in times like these we so much want to rescue our loved ones.....we want to fix them....to speak that word of life to them and to heal them.......not unlike the way the angels of heaven and the heavenly intelligences wanted to rescue Jesus from his suffering and his death on the cross...and then we get a glimpse of what the Heavenly Father also suffered....watching his dear Son........

Indeed we are following the footsteps of the Savior.....may God continue to keep the both of you........
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on August 29, 2008, 11:36:31 PM
Soli.....in times like these we so much want to rescue our loved ones.....we want to fix them....to speak that word of life to them and to heal them.......not unlike the way the angels of heaven and the heavenly intelligences wanted to rescue Jesus from his suffering and his death on the cross...and then we get a glimpse of what the Heavenly Father also suffered....watching his dear Son........

Indeed we are following the footsteps of the Savior.....may God continue to keep the both of you........

Excellent points Pam.

It is very comforting to believe in the total sovereignty of God with reagrds to our individual circumstances.  God has a purpose in every trial that we as Christians suffer. God planned the sacrifice of His dear Son before the foundation of the world. He planned that His Son would suffer greater physical and emotional pain than anyone else would ever suffer. None of our sufferings in this life can come close to what our Lord Jesus suffered on Calvary specifically to redeem His people.

There is no trial that we go through that takes Him by surprise. He gives us the grace to endure trials. He uses these trials to strengthen our faith.

It makes it easier to know that other Christians are praying. We all strengthen each other by praying for one another.

Thanks again,

Soli Deo Gloria
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: eon on September 22, 2008, 12:37:46 PM
Hi Soli,
 I wanted to ask how things are with you and your family.
eon.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Deborah Risinger on September 22, 2008, 07:32:09 PM
Praying for you and your wife's peace and comfort.

God's Blessings'
Deborah
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on September 23, 2008, 12:23:59 AM
Thanks again everyone for your prayers.

Marti continues to improve slowly. I was off today, and the caregiver and I took her to the San Diego Zoo, and even with her impaired vision, and need of a wheelchair she was able to enjoy the animals.

When I tucked her into bed and prayed with her tonight, she expressed gratitude for everyone that is praying for her.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Richard OFfill on September 23, 2008, 04:56:41 AM
Stan,

Thank you for the up-date. My heart goes out to you both.

Dick
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on December 06, 2008, 03:26:34 PM
Just a short update on Marti's condition.

She and I are in special need of your prayers at this time during the holidays. Her mind is getting better, but as a result, she is realizing that at the age of 54, she may always have to be dependent on us and her caregivers for the rest of her life. This is an unpredicatable disease as to how long the course will be, but barring a miracle, the eventual prognosis is very poor, but we are hopeful for short term improvement, and we are seeing some of that.

But she has been very down with frequent crying episodes since Thanksgiving, but after a few very bad days, she is starting to perk up again. She is still saying beautiful prayers at night when I tuck her into bed.  She appreciates all your prayers.

I also appreciate your prayers for me, as it is very hard seeing her in this condition all the time.

Thanks again for all of your prayers

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: V. Hahn on December 06, 2008, 04:43:19 PM
I have just so prayed.

Part of my prayer..."Dear Lord, help them to know that You are in control, and have their best interests at heart.  Continue to hold them in the palm of Your hand, and please give them what they need the most. Amen"
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on January 20, 2009, 12:22:36 AM
Hi everyone,

As I reported above, We have had some very difficult times in recent months. November and December were especially difficult. She got significantly depressed around the holidays, and as a result, her balance and walking became much more difficult.. I am happy to report that she seems back on track and doing somewhat better this month.

When a person is suffering from a chronic condition, it takes a heavy emotional toll not only on the individual who suffers, but also takes a toll on those who take care of her. It is really hard not to get discouraged and depressed.

But we are thankful for the progress.  Sometimes I have wondered what purpose God has for us in this situation. I am even more convinced now than ever, that God is in complete control of these circumstances, and He is working for our good even in these trying times.

There was a recent example of at least some of the purpose that God has for these circumstances.

I have a medical colleague who comes from India, and was brought up Hindu, but then became an atheist. However, she is an avid reader of a variety of books. I had talked to her about CS Lewis in the past. She recently read his classic apologetic on the Christian faith called
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on January 20, 2009, 10:57:55 AM
God always comes through when you are down....  those little perks are great encouragement.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Deborah Risinger on January 20, 2009, 04:15:33 PM
   Soli,

God's Blessings' to you and Marti

Deborah
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on March 03, 2009, 12:29:52 AM
Thanks again for all your prayers. Marti is starting to show some clear signs of progress, after several weeks of appearing to regress.

I ran across this piece tonight from the Christian blogosphere which is encouraging to me at this time, and I thought I would share it:

Desiring God Blog's David Mathis is referring to Romans 8:32: "He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things? At the center of God's magnificent Himalayan promises is his pledge to work all things -- especially life's most difficult things -- for the good of his people (verses 28-30; 35-39). These promises are so huge that they are hard to believe.

Is God really working all my worst circumstances for my good? Yes! That's what Romans 8:32 is saying. And it's doing so by reasoning from the gospel to God's goodness in all things.

Here's how it works. First, Paul recounts the gospel: "[God] did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all..." God gave his Son for us sinners. That's the good news -- the central truth of Christianity. This is what we believe to be saved, and this is what we keep believing to stay saved.

Then Paul reasons from this gospel to God's goodness toward us in all our deepest pain: "...how will he not, also with him, graciously give us all things?"

It's a rhetorical question
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: lily-of-the-field on March 03, 2009, 04:25:08 AM
Thank you for these encouraging words, Soli.   Our whole Christian experience is about learning to trust in God and His love and goodness.   Sometimes easier said than done.  You and your dear wife continue to be in our prayers.  Your positive outlook inspires and encourages me.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Deborah Risinger on March 03, 2009, 07:28:25 AM
Amen....and to add, a reminder of the great privilege we have to be used for His purposes in our life's experiences...

God's Keep All Close and in Peace,
Deborah
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Tammy on March 06, 2009, 12:45:02 PM
The next time that I'm fussing in my mind about how many precious hours my husband throws away on the computer, may I be reminded of your life, Stan, and count my many blessings and offer a prayer for both of you.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Tammy on June 01, 2009, 06:06:22 PM
In many ways she is like a child as far as her affect, but has a good long term memory.

Stan, how's it going?  For some reason this statement has stayed with me ever since I read it months ago.  It gives a picture of not really having the same spouse to sit and hold a normal conversation with like before.  Years ago I read the book, "Though He Slay Me" by Miriam Wood.  The wife in the story is dealing with a husband with some strange disease that affected his brain (I'm not saying your wife is like he was), and she was explaining how lonely Sabbaths were and how she would take her husband for drives.  But she always wished that some church members would have visited them or included them in their day. 

It's so hard for people to really understand what people are going through, or we don't try to understand, and I was wondering if you get any kind of support from family/church family or if there are some things you could teach us.  So she can actually do LESS for herself than a person who is in a wheelchair?  I couldn't physically hold up to taking care of my husband in the evenings and during the night like that, and then be able to get up the next day to go to work.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on June 03, 2009, 10:33:54 AM
Stan, how's it going?  For some reason this statement has stayed with me ever since I read it months ago.  It gives a picture of not really having the same spouse to sit and hold a normal conversation with like before.  Years ago I read the book, "Though He Slay Me" by Miriam Wood.  The wife in the story is dealing with a husband with some strange disease that affected his brain (I'm not saying your wife is like he was), and she was explaining how lonely Sabbaths were and how she would take her husband for drives.  But she always wished that some church members would have visited them or included them in their day. 

It's so hard for people to really understand what people are going through, or we don't try to understand, and I was wondering if you get any kind of support from family/church family or if there are some things you could teach us.  So she can actually do LESS for herself than a person who is in a wheelchair?  I couldn't physically hold up to taking care of my husband in the evenings and during the night like that, and then be able to get up the next day to go to work.


Tammy,

Thanks so much for your ongoing concerns and I so much appreciate the prayers of everyone on here who are keeping us in prayer.

It is only by the grace of God that we take every day one at a time. I consider it a miracle that God has enabled me to be a caregiver. Before this illness hit her, both she and I were quite independent and we were into our own things, and I was unfortunately terribly engrossed in my hobbies and even my blogging on spiritual things to really be as good of a husband as I should have been. Then when this illness hit, I was frightened as I had a difficult time accepting that my life had changed and I had to be homebound on weekends with her. I was the last person who could actually have to help her do everything.

Fortunately she is able to walk with help for short distances. She is nearly blind and she would fall if we did not hold on to her. She is now just starting to be able to feed herself. She also lost her hearing with the first stroke, but she has a cochlear implant which helps and has a hearing aid in the other ear. She is able to watch TV but only understands about 50% of what she sees and hears.

Recently she has started a new strength training program which is really helping her, and she is very excited as she now has hope for a lot more progress, and now is better than at any time in the last two years, and we praise God for this.  We are very fortunate to have two wonderful caregivers that take care of her while I am at the hospital. I work one week on with 12 hour days and one week off, which gives me a lot of time to spend with her. I am fortunate to work for a solid group like Kaiser Permanente, and everyone there has been very supportive of my situation.

God has worked His will and purpose in both of us. It brought me closer to Him, and tested my faith severely. I have been to the valley of depression, but God has lifted me out of this valley to learn to trust Him more. But most importantly, He used this ordeal to bring her to true faith and trust in Him for salvation.  She used to have no interest in spiritual things, but now she prays the most beautiful prayers every night when I tuck her into bed. She has that wonderful child like faith that we should all have.

Yes, there are still very tough times. She still gets angry and depressed and is very difficult to manage at times, but, after these episodes emerges stronger.

What lessons can we learn from times like these?

First of all, we should live every day as if it were our last. We should appreciate our spouses and spend time with them when they are well. This is something that I wish would have been true for me. Then, if something like this happens, then we must be determined to continue to be faithful in sickness as well as in health.

Thanks again for all your prayers.

Soli Deo Gloria (To God alone be the glory for His grace!)

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Tammy on June 03, 2009, 11:57:48 AM
What lessons can we learn from times like these?

First of all, we should live every day as if it were our last. We should appreciate our spouses and spend time with them when they are well.

Thanks for being so upfront about your situation.  Many of us, I'm sure, can learn from what you said.  We take so much for granted.

But by my original question about what we could learn, I was referring to us as fellow church members, in the future if we were to be aware of some similar type situation in our own church.  For instance, from what you have experienced, could you suggest to us that we need to reach out more, visit somebody in your situation, offer to give a break, etc.  How has your support been, physically or emotionally, from your church family?  It's so easy to just be caught up in our own little lives, and we don't try to put ourselves in another's shoes like we should and actually take the time to do something that we know we would appreciate if we were in the same position.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on June 03, 2009, 10:44:39 PM
Thanks for being so upfront about your situation.  Many of us, I'm sure, can learn from what you said.  We take so much for granted.

But by my original question about what we could learn, I was referring to us as fellow church members, in the future if we were to be aware of some similar type situation in our own church.  For instance, from what you have experienced, could you suggest to us that we need to reach out more, visit somebody in your situation, offer to give a break, etc.  How has your support been, physically or emotionally, from your church family?  It's so easy to just be caught up in our own little lives, and we don't try to put ourselves in another's shoes like we should and actually take the time to do something that we know we would appreciate if we were in the same position.


One of the very unfortunate aspects of this illness is the difficulty in getting her up on time to make it to church. I am sure there are several people at the church we've attended that would have helped and reached out if we had asked. However, she has a lot of wonderful friends who visit her. I have many Christian colleagues who have been a support, and I have many friends who are praying through online contact. I have found this forum a source of strength from the many who have responded on these threads and via private messages, and I thank everyone who has prayed for our situation. 

She likes to listen to the Bible on tape and is able to get quite a bit out of them. She looks forward to this Bible reading time. We anticipate in the near future being able to get her strong enough to get back to church.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Deborah Risinger on June 05, 2009, 05:56:26 PM
Stan...your story shows how far God is willing to go to bring us to Himself.  Think what it would have been like in Heaven...looking back at your wife having no interest in spiritual things?  Realizing now as a "reality"...... God allows these so called "sorrows" into our lives "to save us."

By reading your post, it seems, this is the case, in your home....God's grace does not supercede His humility...the depth of His love is difficult to wrap the mind and heart around.........He loves so deeply

I would send God's Blessings' to you except.... I see you and your wife have already received them............... :-)  :-)  :-)

Deborah
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on June 06, 2009, 11:43:05 AM

First of all, we should live every day as if it were our last. We should appreciate our spouses and spend time with them when they are well. This is something that I wish would have been true for me. Then, if something like this happens, then we must be determined to continue to be faithful in sickness as well as in health.

Thanks again for all your prayers.

Soli Deo Gloria (To God alone be the glory for His grace!)

Stan

This is good... 
1) Live every day as if it were our last....  (as stated by Stan)
2) Study the Word of God as if you were to live life eternal.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on September 15, 2009, 12:12:02 AM
Thanks again everyone for your continued prayers. It has been about 3 months since my last update.

We are continuing to see progressive signs of improvement in Marti's condition. She is now getting special strength training therapy which is improving her balance. Just 2 weeks ago, she was able to see her own face in the mirror much more clearly for the first time and see my face for the first time more clearly! You should have seen the smile and hope on her face.

She still has a long way to go, but she has come along way by God's grace, and her spiritual strength gets stronger as time goes on. The Lord continues to sustain me and give me strength in being a caregiver.

Soli Deo Gloria  (To God alone be the glory)

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Deborah Risinger on September 15, 2009, 07:26:40 AM
Yes, how close God has drawn Himself to you and Marti.....

In thinking of Eternity....your attitude, will make this a "sweet memory" of God's Grace.............

God's Blessings'
Deborah  :-)
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on September 16, 2009, 02:29:11 AM
Yes, how close God has drawn Himself to you and Marti.....

In thinking of Eternity....your attitude, will make this a "sweet memory" of God's Grace.............

God's Blessings'
Deborah  :-)

Thanks Deborah.

It is a continuing struggle. Tonight she got very discouraged and we spent about an hour crying and praying together, but we will get through this. God is so good, and His presence was felt during this  time.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: guibox on September 16, 2009, 05:58:57 AM
Thanks Deborah.

It is a continuing struggle. Tonight she got very discouraged and we spent about an hour crying and praying together, but we will get through this. God is so good, and His presence was felt during this  time.

Stan

My heart goes out to you two today, Stan. I'll keep praying for you and Marti. I hope your juice is doing something good for her!
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on September 16, 2009, 08:41:34 AM
Stan,
I don't really understand it all but will pray for your strength and endurance.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on September 16, 2009, 09:46:01 PM
Thanks to all. We have been blessed by a faithful internet prayer circle and our hearts are lifted up in encouragement.

Guibox,
Thanks for your support. The supplements you are talking about do help, but there is nothing like the spiritual healing.

Newbie,
We don't really need to understand the reasons why God brings trials into our lives, but we are given ample evidence in scripture that the Lord is sovereign and is in full control. He promises in Romans 8:28,29 to work out all things for good to those who are called according to His purpose, and we embrace that promise wholeheartedly.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on September 26, 2009, 12:44:01 PM
Marti was again admitted to the hospital late last night for a significant case of pneumonia requiring multiple antibiotics. We believe she will be fine, but the potential for serious complications is certainly present.

She has wonderful Christian nurses taking care of her and praying with her. I praise God for this, because remember this is Southern Calif which is supposed to be so sophisticated and post-modern, yet God has wonderful Christian people placed strategically to give her the best care possible.

God is definitely under control and is sovereign over all things.

Soli Deo Gloria

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: guibox on September 26, 2009, 01:08:06 PM
Will be remembering Marti in my prayers, Stan. May God give strength to you both and restore health to Marti.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: V. Hahn on September 26, 2009, 01:46:01 PM
I'm sorry to hear that, Stan. Please know that Marti is in my prayers for a swift and full recovery, as it is in God's will.  Praise God for faithful nurses.  Keep looking up!

God bless,

Vicki
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on October 01, 2009, 12:26:08 AM
Marti is finally over her pneumonia, but she has been significantly weakened. She will be leaving the hospital tomorrow to go to an acute rehab facility for physcial therapy. We thank the Lord for His providence and I thank you all for your prayers.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: V. Hahn on October 01, 2009, 06:14:16 AM
So glad that Marti is getting better, Stan.  Please keep us posted and let Marti know that she is being prayed for.

Vicki
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on October 15, 2009, 11:45:47 PM
Again my friends, I ask for your prayers for our situation with my wife Marti.

Her condition is worsening. She was recently admitted for aspiration pneumonia, which is an ominous sign in her disease. She did recover from the infection which was caused by choking on food. However the toxicity from her pneumonia has weakened her to a great extent.

She may have had another stroke like event.. She is going to be very difficult to take care of as she can barely stand up. I am just hoping and praying that her current caregivers will be able to take care of her when she comes home from the rehab hospital next Tuesday. Her prognosis remains guarded.

God is faithful and I know He has His purposes in all of this, and He continues to sustain us through this time of trial.

Thanks to all of you for your prayers

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Larry Lyons on October 16, 2009, 09:37:47 AM
Stan, God is merciful and loving. I pray that His hand will touch her and give her strength and peace.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on October 16, 2009, 12:35:45 PM
I'm so sorry Stan. 
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Deborah Risinger on October 16, 2009, 03:16:35 PM
May God's mercy be upon you both  :cry:

Deborah
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: fifthgenSDA on October 16, 2009, 05:55:50 PM
My prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Fifthgen (Maggie)
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Dora on December 17, 2009, 04:05:02 PM
We ask why, and it is so hard to find answers.  I will be praying for you and your wife through this very difficult time.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on November 17, 2010, 11:04:49 PM
Well, it has been awhile since I posted any updates on Marti's condition. She continues to get weaker physically, but her faith remains strong. It takes more caregiver support now than before.

God continues to be faithful as we struggle along in this painful process of slow deterioration.

However, there was a bright spot yesterday. We celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary. With the caregiver's help, we were able to take her in her wheelchair to the San Clemente, California restaurant on the pier. She had such a good time, and enjoyed a wonderful meal. Just for her to be able to get out of the house helps brighten her day, and  those of us taking care of her were blessed as well.

Thanks for your continued prayers.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: restoretruth on November 18, 2010, 12:38:19 AM
Stan,

God bless you & your wife! You have a wonderful faith & we do so appreciate you! My wife & I are adding you both to our prayer list.
Life here is so short, but we have such a wonderful future to look forward to! God bless you both!
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Ed Sutton on January 18, 2011, 03:06:40 PM
Stan & Marti  congradulations on 30 yrs of life and love as a married couple.      Maybe start celebrating quarterly.   
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: GraceVessel on January 19, 2011, 09:29:25 AM
Congratulations to you both !!!!...

My wife and I were talking over a nice dinner over the weekend about what will heaven be like... will we work... then I got to thinking about the adage...

Marriage is either a holy wedlock or an unholy deadlock... Jesus has been so gracious to me, with such a gift of a woman.  I think fellowship will be really big in heaven... alot of really cool relationships... you do stuff for other people and get to know them because you appreciate them...

True appeciation is lost... in our culture.    It's so hard for me to stay int he habit of appreciating what God has done for me each day.... and what He will do.

JOY - Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last.   ... just remember that from gradeschool.

:)
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on January 22, 2011, 01:28:27 AM
Thanks Restore, Ed, and GV for the encouraging words.

Yes, it is a struggle, but God has accompanied us every step of the journey, and has sustained us by His grace.
I appreciate so much the prayers and Marti is also touched when I tell her about all the folks on the forum who are praying.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Deborah Risinger on April 26, 2011, 01:09:20 PM
Hello Soli Deo Gloria...................I have been gone quite some time.  Just catching up a bit.....you never cease to amaze me when I read your posts....such faith.  Thank you for gripping and clinging to God.  It is inspirering to all

God Keep You and You Wife Always,
Deborah :-)
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on April 27, 2011, 12:07:17 AM
Hello Soli Deo Gloria...................I have been gone quite some time.  Just catching up a bit.....you never cease to amaze me when I read your posts....such faith.  Thank you for gripping and clinging to God.  It is inspirering to all

God Keep You and You Wife Always,
Deborah :-)

Thanks Deborah for thinking of us. Good to see you again. Welcome back. Your faith story is also very inspiring to me.

Marti is doing OK, but tonight when I put her to bed, she had another episode of crying and feeling very depressed about her situation for awhile, but then with God's help, she was able to snap out of it. She is having trouble understanding why God let this happen to her.

I really appreciate everyone's prayers for her.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: lily-of-the-field on April 30, 2011, 01:45:27 PM
It is understandable that Marti would sometimes feel depressed and ask why.  But as Deborah said, your faith and love are an inspiration.  God bless you both.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on June 25, 2012, 01:13:38 AM
It has been a long time since posting updates.

Marti still shows slow decline. It is very sad to watch a slow deterioration over the last 5 years.

She doesn't understand why either.  But our faith remains strong.

I believe God has a purpose in all of this. That is what keeps us going.

Praise God for the grace he has promised. He remains faithful.

Thanks for your continued prayers.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on June 25, 2012, 01:48:30 PM
I'm sorry Stan.
I will continue to pray for the both of you.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on July 03, 2014, 12:24:42 AM
It looks like Marti is getting closer to the end of her journey.  Her doctors say that she has only a few months at most to the end of this long process.  She is ready to go. 
Thanks to all on here for your prayers and support through my years on this forum.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: GraceVessel on July 03, 2014, 04:28:16 AM
Stan,

I consider you a true friend and will continue to ask God to comfort you and give you strength.  Thank you so much for your taking the time to be a support to me during my wife's ordeal.

It was a pleasure meeting you in person during my trip to visit my brother and truly consider you a kindred spirit.

May Jesus richly bless you and energize  you with HIS peace at this time.

Call me if you ever need to chat, whatever the time.

with kind regards,

Gracevessel
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on July 03, 2014, 09:15:24 AM
Thanks so much GV.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on July 04, 2014, 09:19:55 AM
May the Lord be with you during this time ...
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Larry Lyons on July 04, 2014, 10:00:32 PM
Stan, I pray that God will comfort you and Marti as she approaches the end. But we know it is not the end. May we all meet before the throne on the sea of glass.

Larry
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: restoretruth on July 05, 2014, 11:51:10 AM
Stan,

We continue to pray for both of you that God will give you both comfort & strength! Your example of faithfulness & trust in God has been a blessing to all of us! May God be with you Stan & Marti!
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: V. Hahn on July 05, 2014, 01:33:06 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about that, Stan.  Please let Marti know that we are praying for you, and you.  We serve a merciful and mighty God, and He hears our prayers.  May the peace that passes all understanding be yours.

Here's a song for you…  http://www.youtube.com/watch?list=RDy_BB0NrSkKw&v=y_BB0NrSkKw (http://www.youtube.com/watch?list=RDy_BB0NrSkKw&v=y_BB0NrSkKw)

"Fear not, for I am with you;
Be not dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you,
Yes, I will help you;
I will uphold you with My righteous right hand."
Isaiah 41:10
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on July 05, 2014, 11:28:12 PM
Thanks to all for your replies.
My heart has been touched and blessed. 
I have really appreciated the prayer support Marti and I have received.

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: ColporteurK on July 06, 2014, 01:14:12 PM

 Romans 8:28
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Tammy on July 06, 2014, 02:37:27 PM

 Romans 8:28

This would really rub me wrong right now if I were in Stan's position.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: ColporteurK on July 06, 2014, 05:55:49 PM

 Romans 8:28

This would really rub me wrong right now if I were in Stan's position.

Tammy,
 A lot of things rub Stan the wrong way. God can bring good out of every tragedy. I believe that.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on July 06, 2014, 10:54:49 PM

 Romans 8:28

This would really rub me wrong right now if I were in Stan's position.

Tammy,
 A lot of things rub Stan the wrong way. God can bring good out of every tragedy. I believe that.

Thanks again everyone.  Romans 8:28 is one of my favorite verses, and will never rub me the wrong way.
However, Tammy I appreciate your concern.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: EJamesC on July 07, 2014, 03:17:58 AM
Some years ago, my fiancé was killed in a car accident. What gave me the most hope was knowing she no longer has to struggle in this sinful world any longer and her next conscience moment will be the resurrection and seeing Jesus. Praise God for being able to rest in Jesus and knowing His return will be very soon. You won't have to wait very long to see her again, fully restored.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: V. Hahn on July 07, 2014, 04:33:44 AM
Amen, EJamesC.  That is the blessed hope.  All praises to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

And you're right, His return WILL be VERY SOON!  May we all be ready for that great day.

(And welcome to the forum, EJC.  We appreciate your participation!)
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on July 07, 2014, 03:52:22 PM
we've recently had some old church members die that were faithful... while I'm very sad they are gone and miss them terribly...  they will soon be seeing Jesus in their next awakening moment...
sometimes I feel like that's the easy way out while the rest of us struggle on in thier evil world seeing it get worse by the day...not to mention those that will go through the tough times ahead...
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on November 03, 2014, 02:09:19 AM
Well the long journey is finally over.
Marti fell asleep in the Lord earlier this evening in a home hospice setting.
She suffered terribly in the last 7 years.
She was a wonderful wife.
She waits for that glorious resurrection morning when her body will be fully restored.

A text comes to mind that is very comforting:
Psalm 116:15
Precious in the sight of The Lord is the death of his saints.

Thanks again everyone on this board who prayed and posted encouraging messages.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Tammy on November 03, 2014, 07:23:50 AM
Have no words.  Hug for you!
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: V. Hahn on November 04, 2014, 09:13:04 PM
God bless and be with you, Stan.  I know you have suffered a lot over the years, too.  Please accept my sincere condolences.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on November 05, 2014, 07:27:33 AM
God bless and be with you, Stan.  I know you have suffered a lot over the years, too.  Please accept my sincere condolences.
my thoughts exactly
may God be with you at this time Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: restoretruth on November 07, 2014, 09:55:30 PM
We are so sorry for your loss, Stan; but so thankful for her hope in Christ, & yours, also!  Soon, Jesus will come! What a wonderful, glorious day that will be, when our loved ones who have died in Christ will hear that resurrection trumpet sound!

In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed. (1Cor.15:52)

And  he shall send his angels with a great sound of a trumpet, and they shall gather together his elect from the four winds, from one end of heaven to the other. ( Mat_24:31 )

 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. ( Rev 21:4 )  
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on November 09, 2014, 01:01:38 AM
Thanks all for your prayers and support.
We had a blessed funeral for her which was really a happy occasion as we knew she was out of her misery.
The pastor made a clear appeal to accept the gospel.
We celebrated her life with so many humorous and interesting stories.
We know we will see her again when all things will be made new.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Richard OFfill on November 16, 2014, 02:30:35 PM
Stan,

You were faithful till the last. As others have said, may God give you peace and hope.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on November 16, 2014, 07:03:35 PM
Stan,

You were faithful till the last. As others have said, may God give you peace and hope.
amen
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on March 13, 2018, 02:55:23 PM
God has been so good. 
He has given me a new wife.
I married Annie last Sunday, March 4 at the beautiful glass chapel in Rancho Palos Verdes.
This forum offered wonderful support to me.
Thanks to all.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Raven on March 13, 2018, 04:21:24 PM
Congratulations, Soli.  May it be a blessed experience for both of you.
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: newbie on March 13, 2018, 04:58:08 PM
great news soli   :yay:
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: V. Hahn on March 13, 2018, 05:38:55 PM
How exciting!  Congratulations, Stan!  I'm so happy for you!
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Soli Deo Gloria on March 13, 2018, 10:47:04 PM
Thanks so much to you all!

Stan
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Listen on March 15, 2018, 09:18:25 PM
Wonderful!  Praise be to God!
Title: Re: Please continue to pray for my wife
Post by: Ed Sutton on March 20, 2018, 06:56:26 PM
Any wedding pictures ?